The effects of parent expectations on a person come in variety. More importantly they shape the background of a person's life. The expectations of parents can cause both positive and negative effects. In my own personal experience, it helped me to set higher goals, but was also a source of stress.
When I was growing up, I was constantly pestered to be the highest and the best. It was always expected. After a while, my mind actually set into only achieving the best possible outcome. In fact, I notice this when I set goals for myself. My parents' expectations pushed me to be perfect, meaning no mistakes at all. This resulted in me becoming a perfectionist. Throughout my elementary and middle school years, all my friends and teachers called me Mr. Perfectionist. My parents' standards became my standards, so to me nothing was ever good enough. My locker had to be clean and straightened. Clothes had to always be washed. Homework had to have no errors. Even yesterday when I was practicing the violin I asked myself, "If my mother heard how I played would she clap of approval or sigh in disappointment?"
The expectations of parents, however, can also cause negative results. When parents expect too much, students find that as a source of stress. I know because I'm a victim. My mothers chants of "More!" and "That's not good enough for the rest of the world" caused me to sometimes set standards that I couldn't possibly achieve. For example, this year I enrolled in AP Physics because my mother claimed that the average Korean students take classes that are harder. Although I tried to meet her standards, I failed. I dropped out after only taking a quarter of the class. This failure caused me a great deal of remorse and stress, because I had not achieved the minimum set by my mother. I know that I'm not the only person who suffers from these feelings. My brother does not always try his best because he knows that our mother will tell him that he's not good enough either way. Other Korean students complain that their parents enroll them into one academy after another causing them anxiety and in worst cases, suicide. Parents that expect too much from their children end up giving them grief with massive amounts of stress and a blow to their self-confidence.
Witnessing and experiencing the effects of parental expectations allows me to conclude that it contributes to both good and bad results. They enable students to set higher goals for themselves and to always achieve the best. However, they can also cause the student too much pressure and overload which sometimes lead to suicide.

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